Today we explore the mystifying world of sex, drugs, and alcohol with Kirsten Chalmers. Kirsten is an Educational and Developmental Psychologist who, herself, has mostly stopped drinking alcohol over the past year. She and I discuss the ins and outs of sober sex. 
Are you living your best life? What would that look like? All too often we drink alcohol to fill a void in our lives, but we gloss over the idea that alcohol is not the only thing that will make us feel the way we want to feel. Change is hard. Lifestyle changes don't happen overnight, but as someone who drank from a young age and drank her whole life, Kirsten says she likely would have had better and more fulfilling relationships in her youth if she had been drinking less alcohol. She maintains that we need to first look inward to figure out what is missing in our lives and then to find things that fulfill us. She also opens up about navigating her new routines during the pandemic lockdowns -- and with a partner who is still drinking.
Kirsten Chalmers is a registered psychologist by profession and has been working in private practice for over 10 years. She obtained her master’s degree in Educational and Developmental Psychology from the University of Melbourne.
In 2020, Covid struck and she decided to take a break from her work and at the same time, a break from alcohol. After experiencing the benefits of an alcohol-free lifestyle, she got inspired to introduce people to mindful drinking and drinking alternatives. Hence, Point Zero Cellars was born.
Point Zero Cellars is a Melbourne-based company importing fine, alcohol-free wines and superior spirits from around the world and distributing these throughout Australia. Drinks from their Sexy AF special collection promote being sexy and sober. Their current portfolio includes wines from South Africa’s finest wineries and spirits sourced from Canada.
Listen in to learn how alcohol affects stress and mental health conditions, what happens to your body when you're not drinking, and ways to switch up your habits so you can start to drink less.
Listeners can go to Point Zero Cellars and use the coupon code: ROSA10 for 10% off their purchase of alcohol-free drinks. This code is valid for 30 days after the episode is released on December 6th, 2021.
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"Alcohol has made it really easy not to think, not to enquire, not to dig deep." - Kirsten Chalmers
Show Notes:
- When to stop drinking
- Why can't we drink during pregnancy
- How to socialize when you stop drinking
- What to say to someone who stops drinking
- What is the mummy wine culture
- How does alcohol affect sexual performance
- Defining date rape when alcohol is involved
- Alcohol and mental health conditions
- How does alcohol affect stress
- How to stop drinking
- Alcohol replacements
- Ways to stop drinking
- The benefits of not drinking
“Alcohol was just the adult thing to do.” - Kirsten Chalmers
Links Mentioned:
- Erectile Dysfunction with Dr. John Demartini on TalkSex with Gabriela Rosa
- Connect with Kirsten Chalmers:
Facebook | TikTok | Instagram | LinkedIn | Point Zero Cellars
The discussion continues over on social media follow TalkSex™ with Gabriela Rosa:
"We want to look sexy and, for some reason, we made alcohol the thing that looks sexy." - Kirsten Chalmers